Elise Tanyag

Don't give up on the man of your dreams

Elise Tanyag
Don't give up on the man of your dreams

I am and always will be a hopeless romantic.

I grew up on Disney princesses, Bratz dolls, and romantic comedies. I believed chivalry wasn’t dead with every fiber of my being. I would daydream about my first kiss and how it would happen and I thought everyone grew up to be high school sweethearts.


When I was 13, I took a trip to Disneyland with some family friends. As any cost effective family would, we were staying in a hotel down the street from the park. For whatever reason, one morning on our walk towards the entrance, I decided to pray. It wasn’t like a on my hands and knees prayer but more of a conversation I was having with God. I slowed my walking pace from the rest of the group and I prayed for the man of my dreams. But I didn’t just pray for a nice Godly man to someday sweep me off my feet– I prayed for specifics. I listed physical attributes, characteristics, all the way down to what kind of car I expected him to drive.


But time passed, I got older and I started dating in the real world. My first kiss in high school was awkward (as it should be), I was way too immature to be dating, and I had no idea what falling in love was supposed to feel like. I gave myself false hope and wasted time on boys that weren’t good for me or forcing myself to date when I clearly wasn’t ready. I slowly started losing hope in this perfect dream guy I held so preciously in my heart for so long. I kept asking myself, “does he even exist?!” After many failed attempts at relationships, I convinced myself that the perfect man truly didn’t exist and that I should consider lowering my standards.

Friends, please hear me,

DON’T EVER LOWER YOUR STANDARDS FOR LOVE.

I know this isn’t old news, but it can be easy to believe this lie when you’ve experienced failure after failure after failure in the dating world. You start to question if something is wrong with you and begin to change yourself for the sake of finding love. When I lowered my standards, I fell into some of the worst and unfruitful relationships. I learned the hard way that you should never have to compromise yourself or your desires for a relationship.


Fast forward several years later and come to find a semi mature college grad version of myself. By this point I knew what I wanted in a man and I vowed that I would stay true to it no matter what. I also promised myself that I would use my first summer as a graduate to relax and take time to just be with myself. In all honesty, I thought I was going to meet someone over the summer but summer came and went and… well, nothing. At the end of summer, my mom and I had planned to take a trip to Hawaii to visit some family but our trip was cancelled day of due to unsafe weather conditions. So, instead I ended up going to a church worship team party.

And that’s when I met him.

Now, you have to realize that this party was the last place I would have expected to meet anyone new, let alone the man of my dreams. Especially because I knew everyone on our team and in all fairness, I didn’t think anyone would hit on me at a church event. But he was new to Canvas and had just joined the worship team. To make a long story short, we were formally introduced to each other, he gave me a ride home (and his phone number), and the rest was history. And let me tell you, he is WONDERFUL. Remember that prayer? He is everything I have prayed for and more. He is loving, genuine, thoughtful, and just a true gentleman.


All this is to say— please please PLEASE, whatever you do, don’t give up on the man you’ve been praying for. God is faithful, he always has been and always will be. Don’t settle for a love that doesn’t deserve you.